Friday, March 14, 2008

Seriously, the cursing has got to stop

It does. It really does. But now I think I'm clinging to it as the last vestige of the woman I used to be before baby. I think I'm cursing more, not less.

The swear jar isn't working. Mostly because neither Husband nor I notice when I curse. It's so ingrained in my normal speech patterns that it doesn't raise a red flag 98.9% of the time (+/- 1 percent error).

The other day, Husband actually caught me (for once) using a totally unnecessary "f**k".

"You knew what you were getting yourself into!" I exclaimed. "You knew you were gettin' a sailor when you married me."*

"But I didn't necessary want a sailor for a 2-year-old daughter."

Hmm, good point.

*There may or may not have been some curse words thrown in there for emphasis.


EcoGeoFemme said...

So, could you teach her that some words are only okay to say at home? Like, let her swear when she's around you guys, but teach her that most people think it's impolite for children to drop the f-bomb when they aren't allowed a cookie?

arduous said...

Or that certain words are adult words and other people don't like it when you use them?

It might be that if she hears you swear, she might just have a healthy attitude towards bad words and won't become one of those teenagers who has to swear at every other word just to prove that they're cool enough to use bad words.

mamabear said...

the only thing that has worked for me has been finding replacement swear phrases -- kid friendly phrases that fill the space where the curse words used to be. they will likely be embarrassing and make no sense. i for in stance throw around "son of a goat" quite a bit. also consider cursing in a foreign language -- much less embarrassing when your kid repeats it!

but don't feel like you're saying goodbye to curse words. my inner sailor still comes raging out when i am in the company of certain adults...and when those moments come along i enjoy them!

arduous said...

Oooh! I like this idea! Remember how you wanted to start calling people Dick Wolf?

You could totally do that. And if Bean repeated it, people would just think she really liked the guy who created "Law & Order."

ScienceMama said...

Oh, I DO call people dick wolves.

Yeah, I think the replacement word thing is the way to go. I really don't WANT Bean to swear at all. Like ever. She should be 40 and saying "son of a goat".